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Shocking Facts You Never Knew About Masturbation
Vibrators for masturbation aren’t just for women
Masturbation. It’s not just a great way to kill time, but it’s also the safest sex you can have. And it has many health benefits. Although we can all agree that masturbation is pretty much the cherry on top of the ice cream of life, there’s more to the act than that. Here are 11 things you probably never knew about your favourite hobby.
Other animals like moose get off by rubbing their antlers against trees, porcupines prefer sticks, and squirrels will even masturbate until they ejaculate. Then, they’ll consume the ejaculate, which might be a market they’ve cornered.
Male foetuses might masturbate in utero
If you thought the first time you touched yourself and realised it felt really, really good was when you hit puberty, you might be wrong. Researchers in Spain recently found that in utero masturbation is actually a thing among male foetuses, so this “gratification behaviour” starts far earlier than originally thought.
“Masturbation in infancy and early childhood could be initiated when the infant discovers that certain manoeuvres can bring about a pleasant and comforting sensation,” the researchers reported. “We could accept that it could be viewed in the same group as thumb-sucking, body-rocking or other behaviours that infants use to enhance comfort.”
It might keep your prostate cancer–free
In a study from Harvard, men who ejaculated 21 or more times per month had a 19 to 22 percent lower risk of prostate cancer than men who did so only four to seven times per month. Considering roughly 220,800 cases of prostate cancer are diagnosed a year, according to the American Cancer Society, it’s worth trying.
You might need to switch up your technique
You’ve probably noticed that you masturbate the same pretty much all the time, right? While sometimes you may use different stimulation – visual, written erotica, or something else – your physical technique probably doesn’t vary all that much.
There’s a word for this: idiosyncratic masturbation. What this means is that your body has become so accustomed to how you get yourself off, that when you’re with a partner, you might struggle to climax because your partner may not be able to recreate the exact sensation that gets you off when you’re alone.
If you find that that’s the case, then you may want to consider either taking a break from masturbating in general or experimenting with other ways to get yourself off when you’re rolling solo.
Not all guys masturbate
A 2016 study discovered a fairly ground-breaking statistic about masturbation: Only 57 percent of straight men masturbate on a regular basis. According to study author Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., the reason for this can vary. Some men could just be having lots of sex with their partners. For others, it could simply be a lack of interest. While for others, a suggested 14 to 17 percent, it’s a matter of a low desire.
It’s probably nothing to worry about if you fall into the category of non-masturbators—and ditto if you masturbate a lot. As long as your masturbation frequency doesn’t interfere with your daily life, “too much” and “masturbation” don’t belong in the same sentence.
Happy men forget the last time they masturbated
Yes, that’s right: A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine suggests that men overestimate how much they masturbate, on average, but men in a good mood actually underestimate how often they yank their crank. Guys might overshoot in an attempt to confirm to gender stereotypes, but researchers don’t have an explanation for why a good mood makes self-love forgettable.
May is International Masturbation Month
In case you haven’t marked it down on your calendar yet, May is International Masturbation Month. It was established in 1995, as a sort of eff you to the Bill Clinton Administration. On December 9, 1994, Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders was fired by President Clinton for daring to suggest – gasp! –
that masturbation be part of the sexual education curriculum in the U.S. So on May 14, 1995, San Francisco-based sex shop Good Vibrations declared the day National Masturbation Day in Elders’ honour. Soon, it went from a one day in May to the whole month. In some other parts of the world, teenagers are encouraged to masturbate. In 2009,
the U.K.’s National Health Service distributed pamphlets to teens and their parents about the benefits of masturbation and the fact that choosing masturbation over sex would prevent unwanted pregnancies and STIs, The Daily Mail reported.
Vibrators for masturbation aren’t just for women
When we think of female masturbation, we often think of clitoral stimulation with a vibrator. But vibrators can aid in male masturbation as well. In a study in Journal of Sexual Medicine, 16.6 percent of men reported using a vibrator alone while masturbating. Open your mind and give a vibrator a try.
There is actually a ‘wrong’ way to masturbate
You’ve probably heard of sex injuries, but how about masturbation injuries? It seems like if you’re the one behind the wheel you should know when enough is enough, but for some that message isn’t very loud and clear.
A study published in the journal Trauma and Acute Care Surgery found that 60 percent of penile fractures occur during masturbation. Other horrors include strangulation from being squeezed too tight and gangrene from infected wounds opened by excessive chafing.
Losing your erection during masturbation could signal trouble
It’s one thing to lose an erection during sex – thanks to a variety of things like stress, exhaustion, performance anxiety, etc. – but men can also lose their erection during masturbation. However, in this case, it could be a lot worse than simply being too stressed to keep it up and keep it going.
Researchers in Italy found that 45 percent of men were unable to maintain an erection while masturbating, and those guys had a greater risk of heart disease. While going limp during a self-love sesh isn’t a guarantee that you’ll end up with ticker trouble, erectile dysfunction is an early sign of cardiovascular issues and is absolutely something you should have checked out by your doctor. Don’t get worked up if you are having
Masturbation and intercourse semen are different
Surprisingly, not all semen is the same. Multiple studies from the 1990s, including one by researchers in Japan, show that semen from sex contains more sperm than semen from masturbation. Your prostate may be more active during intercourse.
But not all masturbatory semen is created equal, either. In a study published in Evolutionary Psychological Science, researchers found that masturbating men produced more semen when they viewed an erotic film featuring a woman they’d never seen before than when they watched the same subject over and over
Men have not cornered the market on masturbating
Research may have confirmed that men masturbate more than women, but men aren’t the kings of the castle when it comes to masturbation. Although the evolutionary reason behind it is lost on scientists, animals also masturbate.'
Some animals like to rub their genitals against different outside sources or, if they’re flexible enough, they’ll even give themselves oral sex – for example, walruses can pull this off no problem.
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Lessons You Can Learn From Her Sex Toys
Study her gadgets and unlock the secrets to pleasing her every time Your lady is using sex toys. We can see how this might feel threatening—like she’s replacing you with a better, battery-operated alternative. But if she’s really into her vibrator, it doesn’t mean she isn’t getting enough from you.
Over half of women have used sex toys, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, so there’s a good chance she’s got one stashed somewhere in her drawer. Since not all toys are created equal, her toy-of-choice can provide insight into what she really wants from you. Learn these six lessons from her sex gadgets, and you’ll soon be irreplaceable.
The Classic Vibrator
A good vibrator is like a Volvo: dependable, powerful, and a reliable way to get from point A to point O. “If she’s using something electric, then you know she’s definitely into the power,” says Sadie Allison, Ph.D., author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. Allison says women are attracted to the variety in a classic multispeed vibrator: She can speed up, slow down, and vary the pressure until she’s right there.
The takeaway: It’s not all about hitting one speed. Start slow and easy before you rev up and build toward climax. You can diversify your intensity, too, by alternating between hard-and-fast pumps and the slow-and-gentle kind.
The Bullet Vibe
If she’s using a bullet vibrator—one of those small, thumb-sized vibes shaped like a bullet shell—then she’s definitely targeting her clitoris. Crammed with thousands of nerve-endings, the clitoris is a one-way ticket to orgasm, so it’s not surprising that lots of women focus here. Similarly, she might be using a vibe like Jimmyjane’s Form 3 or the Minna Limon, which are shaped to cover the clitoris and the surrounding area.
The takeaway: Rather than going straight to thrusting, spend some time giving TLC to her clitoris. Try warming her up with a little clitoral play, and move into sex positions that hit her C-spot, like woman-on-top or missionary with your hips tilted forward.
Named for their two-pronged bunny-ear shape, rabbit vibrators are designed to hit two spots at once—like Lelo’s Soraya dual-action vibrator, which stimulates both the clitoris and the G-spot simultaneously.These are the Ferraris of sex toys: they have all the power of a classic vibe, with twice the intensity. The takeaway: Bring it to the next level by stimulating more than one spot at a time.
If your lady is using her toy both internally and externally, it’s a sign to “pay more attention to her needs and focus on giving her pleasure all over her body,” says Kathryn Catney, a representative from Lelo. During oral sex, use your tongue to hit her clitoris while your fingers find her G-spot; during intercourse, enter from behind while you reach around to push her pleasure button.
Sometimes, sex toys are straightforward, like the dildo. Typically large and phallic-shaped, it’s the closest thing to a “replacement penis” out there. But before you get huffy about being swapped for a synthetic lookalike, remind yourself that the girl who uses a dildo likes the same type of equipment you already have. The difference? She can control it. “If she has a dildo, that means she really likes penetration,” says Allison.
Look closely at her dildo of choice, Allison says—specifically, the size and the shape. The takeaway: If her dildo is pornstar-huge, don’t get a bruised ego. This could just be an indication that she likes super-deep penetration—and that’s a win-win for both of you.
No matter the size, let her be in charge of controlling the thrusts. That way, she can maneuver you around just how she likes.
There are sex toys, and then there are sex oils. We’re talking about the tingling, tantalizing gels and lubes that can take pleasure up a notch by making her ultra-sensitive down there. A woman who puts this much effort into the preparation definitely enjoys a big payoff in the end. The takeaway:
Don’t skimp on the foreplay. Whether it’s giving her oral or manual stimulation or just playing with the oils themselves, make sure her engine is hot before you start .Plus, it goes without saying that everything feels better when it’s slippery—so wait until she’s all lubed up before anything else.
Sex Toys for Couples
If she’s already using solo sex toys, she’ll likely love trying them with a partner—a.k.a. you. “Men are becoming more open to using toys in the bedroom, and surprisingly more couples than singles tend to buy our products,” says Catney. According to a 2014 survey by Lelo, 72 percent of sex toy owners use them with their partners.
The Science of Desire
Desire is part biology, part psychology, often as subtle as it is predictable, and takes shape differently in men and women. For men, arousal typically precedes desire. But for women, desire precedes arousal, in response to physical intimacy, emotional connection, and an atmosphere free of distractions and everyday concerns.
Scientists are continuously exploring the interplay of biological influences, such as neurohormones that suppress or enhance desire, and psychological influences, such as emotions and relationships.
Smell plays an often subtle role in attraction; research shows that women are attracted to mates whose natural body odor (sometimes referred to as pheromones) signals a genetic profile distinct from their own.
Low sexual desire is a common occurrence, among both sexes, and often it can be resolved by regularly exchanging affection and conversation outside the bedroom as well as in it, making sufficient time for each other and for sex, and addressing conflicts within a relationship.
The Fundamentals of Sex
At least for humans, this most basic of acts is anything but basic. As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. From attraction to action, sexual behavior takes many forms. Human interest in sex is not a matter left to chance but more a built-in imperative; survival of the species depends on it.
The decks are stacked in sex's favor, as a passport to bonding, to intimacy, to pleasure, and even to human growth and healing. Bodies and interests change over the course of time, and the complexities of physiology and psychology mean that most people experience a sexual problem at some point in their lives. Although sex can be one of the most difficult topics for partners to discuss, it's one that also stands to draw couples closer together.
The moral and political implications of sex vary greatly from culture to culture, and even within cultures and over time; still, there is agreement on one certainty: It's why we're alive today and what future generations depend on.
Sex and Age
Sexual behavior changes over time as a reflection of age, experience, and one's relationship. And the trajectory of change may vary between men and women. Women may encounter difficulties in navigating cultural attitudes about sexual behavior and promiscuity as they first explore their sexuality; age brings confidence and skill at communication that can enhance sex life.
Young men often have concerns about performance, penis size, or premature ejaculation—and anxiety is no friend to performance for either men or women. Men often experience challenges with arousal and erectile dysfunction as they age. Couples tend to report that their sex life is most robust when they are in their 30s and 40s, but sex life is often most deeply rewarding for older partners.
People can enjoy satisfying sex throughout the lifespan if they make adjustments for the many changes that time brings; that can mean relying less on penile penetration and more on massage, whole-body touching, and oral sex.
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