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To find someone to trust and to call a friend these digital times it is hard , but it is harder to maintain the relationship. friends do matter, they tell a lots about yourself to others. “Show me your friends and U will tell you who you are” and it is a correct sstatement, we need friend/s ut it is rather hard to find one these days, we are not going out as mucg as we use to, and if you go out on your own you will rerurn back home on your own. the flerting does not exist anymore.
To find someone to talk to it is impossible as they stuck their faces on the smartphone and if they see you talking to someone they think you re weird.
Technology has many benefits but equal downfalls, people don’t care as much as the old days – keep refering to the old days and it does make me feel old – but as the world moves forward so do we.
how importand is to have a friend ? do you need one and why? Some thing friends comes with trouble and better be on your own who gives a fuck about friends, others support the idea to have a friend oor two because friend is someone you talk to about everything, they do not judge you and no matter what they are there, is that right?
Invite your friend to hang out with your family. While it’s possible to have good friends that don’t necessarily mesh with your parents and your siblings, if your friend gets along well with your family, that’s a good sign. If your friend enjoys hanging out at your house, and your family enjoys having your friend around, it’s a sign that your friend feels comfortable around you, and you can take what they’re saying at face value.
- Invite a friend over for dinner with your family for an easy and quick way of testing the situation. Make sure to ask your parents first, to make sure it’s ok.
Watch for signs of “using.” Just got a car in high school, and now you’re suddenly “friends” with lots of people who didn’t give you the time of day before? Often, people will act friendly when they want to get something from you. It’s usually best to avoid these types of relationships. Users will flatter you and try to make you feel good with their attention, but won’t ever be willing to hang out with you when the circumstances aren’t right.
- If you’ve got a friend using you for your car, your Xbox, or your pool, ask them to hang out at another time or say your car’s in the shop. If they cancel, that’s a bad sign.
Watch for signs of jealousy. Sometimes, friendships can suffer from jealousy, especially if the two members are at different points currently. If you and your good friend both made the volleyball team, for example, but you made varsity and your friend didn’t, your friendship can start to suffer. But good friends can learn to look past a fit of initial jealousy and put the friendship at the front. Signs of jealousy include:
- Your friend never celebrates your accomplishments or criticizes you instead of congratulating
- Your friend becomes more distant
- You sense a “negative” energy
- Your friend disappears from you when you’re struggling and need helpWatch for signs of two facades. Anyone who bad-mouths you to other people isn’t a friend. If you’re getting mixed messages from someone, or if you’re picking up that someone is talking about you differently to your face than to other people, that’s not a friend.Talk to your other friends if you’re curious about how you’ve spoken in private. Good friends will let you know the truth.
- If anyone bad-mouths you to your face, that’s obviously not a friend. Joking around with someone is one thing, but if somebody puts you down and doesn’t recognize that it’s hurting your feelings, that’s not someone who has your friendship in mind.
- If you’ve got a friend using you for your car, your Xbox, or your pool, ask them to hang out at another time or say your car’s in the shop. If they cancel, that’s a bad sign.
Keep friends who stand up to you when you’re wrong. Friendships aren’t all laughs. Good friends are willing to have your best interest in mind, especially if you’re the one making the mistake.[7] This can get tricky because you want friends who will accept you, but also friends who know when you’re slipping, and are willing to help you out. Someone is your friend if they:
- Politely disagree with you
- Don’t attack you personally
- Have your best interest at heart
- Know what you want and what you need
Keep friends who listen. Real friends make you feel listened to and understood. If your friend always seems distracted when you’re together, or like they’d rather be elsewhere, hanging out with other people, that’s not a great sign. This can happen to old friends, who you might have known for a long time. But sometimes, something can suddenly change, and the relationship isn’t what it once was.[8] Someone is your friend if they:
- Stay in touch, even if you’re both changing
- Make your friendship a priority
- Want to hear about the details of your life
- Remember past conversations you’ve had
Keep friends who are pleasurable to be around. Friendships aren’t always rosy, but they shouldn’t have to feel like work. If you dread the idea of hanging out with someone, or if they seem to resent having to hang out with you, it’s probably not a functional friendship anymore.[9] Someone is your friend if they:
- Are easy to hang out with
- Make you feel relaxed
- Don’t add to your stress
- Don’t cause “drama”Keep friends who are forgiving. Unless you’re being a real jerk, if you mess up, your friends should forgive you when you apologize sincerely. Friends should be willing to look past what might be minor shortcomings and slip-ups, if they really know you and have your best interest at heart.[10] Someone is your friend if they:
- Accept your apologies
- Forgive your failures
- Don’t expect you to be someone you’re not
- Don’t dig up dirt from the past
Ask a friend for help. If you need help, is your friend there for you? Or, does your friend make excuses, disappearing when it becomes convenient? Real friends will show up if you need a helping hand and will show up to celebrate with you afterward.[1]
- Real friends will help you move furniture, ride to the airport with you, and assist you with your homework.
- Avoid making too many demands of your friends. If you’re in constant need of help, it might be difficult for people to get close enough to you to consider you a friend.Change plans on your friend. If you’re good friends with someone, you’ll remain friends with them, regardless of what your plans are. Hanging out together should be enough of a reason to have a good time, and being together should be its own reward. How does your friend react if you decide to change plans? If you were planning on heading out for the night, see if your friend would rather stay home and watch a movie by themselves.
- If a friend declines your request, that doesn’t automatically mean that you lost a friend, but the way they react can tell you a lot about them. Does your friend react as if your plan is the lamest idea ever? That’s a bad sign. Does your friend legitimately want to go to a movie and be a homebody? That’s different.Open up to a friend and talk about something personal. School friends or acquaintances aren’t interested in helping you get through tough times. They’re just interested in having friends who are convenient and simple fun on Friday nights. That’s not to say that there’s not a place for these kinds of friends, but if you’re wondering who your true, good friends are, you need to open up and see how they react.[2]
- Tell your friend how you’re feeling about a date, or about a situation with your family that’s stressing you out. Don’t expect answers, but if you don’t get a sympathetic ear, or if your friend seems annoyed, that’s not a great sign.
- This is different than gossip. Lots of people like to gossip. That doesn’t make them good friends.
- If a friend declines your request, that doesn’t automatically mean that you lost a friend, but the way they react can tell you a lot about them. Does your friend react as if your plan is the lamest idea ever? That’s a bad sign. Does your friend legitimately want to go to a movie and be a homebody? That’s different.
Confront someone you think is playing you. If you suspect a friend might be jealous, two-faced, or using you for something, but can’t quite figure it out, sit them down and have a one-on-one talk when you’re feeling calm and ask them, point-blank, “Are we friends?”
- While it might sound like a weird question, and the person will likely be taken aback, you can follow up with what you’ve been noticing. “I’ve noticed that you only want to hang out when you can use my pool and that you’re talking trash about me to other people when I’m not around. That doesn’t seem like a friend. What’s going on?”
- Let people explain themselves. If you don’t like what you hear, or if they try to defend behavior that is indefensible, that person is not your friend.
Listen to your gut. All friends and all friendships are different. A lot of how you’re feeling about your friends will be a knee-jerk, gut decision. If you feel like someone really cares about you, and you feel confident that they’re a friend, it’s probably because they are. If you even have to wonder, it’s probably a sign that they’re not.
- Ask yourself the test questions, even if you’re not sure of the answers, and go with your gut: Would your friend pick you up from the airport at midnight, if you needed it? Would your friend sit through a boring Sunday dinner with your grandparents, just to be a good friend and hang out afterward? Would your friend be able to celebrate with you, if you won something and she didn’t?
Keep friends who support you. Friends should be around to help hold you up and celebrate the good times with you, and to help get you through the bad times. Anyone who doesn’t support you emotionally isn’t a frien Someone is your friend if they:
- Compliment you sincerely
- Talk favorably about yourself to others
- Seem genuinely excited when you succeed
- Empathize with you when you’re having a tough timeKeep friends who accept you for who you are. Friendship shouldn’t be based on superficial or external things. If someone wants to be your friend because of your car, because of your pool, or because you’re the “cool” kid in school, they’re not your friend. Friends need to support you for who you are as a person.[6] Someone is your friend if they:
- Don’t pressure yourself to do things you don’t want to do
- Don’t judge you for opening-up
- Don’t embarrass you and aren’t embarrassed by you
- Act the same way around you as around other people
- Don’t make demands of you
- Ask yourself the test questions, even if you’re not sure of the answers, and go with your gut: Would your friend pick you up from the airport at midnight, if you needed it? Would your friend sit through a boring Sunday dinner with your grandparents, just to be a good friend and hang out afterward? Would your friend be able to celebrate with you, if you won something and she didn’t?
You can then be confident that your friends are real, true, and lasting.
Someone who is a true friend stands up for you. When others try to hurt you emotionally or physically, friends do everything they can to make sure you stay safe.
They don’t care who is trying to harm you; they will defend you anytime, anywhere.
If they can help you, they’ll do it without reservation or reward. A true friend is not one who repeatedly is telling you negative things other people say about you.
First, they make it clear by their words and by their actions where they stand when it comes to you. Secondly, they don’t just merely stand by silently when others are tearing you down no matter what consequences they may face socially. A true friend is a friend when it is convenient and when it is not.
True friendships stand by you consistently both when you are present and when you are not. True friendships are full of support, and can offer a good laugh after a long day.
G.I.T.C
