When we hurt someone for no reason, it’s because we fear rejection or disconnection from that person. We hope that, by lashing out, they’ll show us more love, attention or understanding. As a result, we’ll feel ‘safer’ in the relationship. So, we behave badly because we want to feel ‘safe’.
Why are some people who do not pose a threat to themselves, and are sometimes even cruel to their own children?
Where does this behavior come from and what purpose does it serve? Ruth, 45, London. In 1658, French philosopher Blaise Pascal concluded that man is the glory and scum of the universe.
Little has changed. we love and hate We help and harm. Reach out and stab the knife. We understand that someone attacks in retaliation or self-defense.
But when someone harms an innocent person, they ask, “How did you do that?”
People usually do things for pleasure or to avoid pain. For most of us, hurting others makes them feel their pain. And we don’t like that feeling.
This suggests two reasons why people can harm harmless people. That is, either they do not feel the pain of others, or they enjoy feeling the pain of others.
Another reason people harm harmless people is because they still perceive the threat. Even people who don’t endanger your body or wallet can threaten your social standing.
This helps explain the otherwise baffling plot. B. When you harm someone who helps you financially.
Unlike sadists, psychopaths don’t harm innocent people just because they enjoy doing it (although they can). Psychopaths want things.
If it helps them get what they want, if it harms others, so be it. They may behave this way because they find it difficult to feel pity, remorse, or fear.
You can know what other people are feeling, but don’t let those feelings fool you. This is a very dangerous skill set.
Humans have been domesticated for thousands of years. This made it difficult for many of us to harm others.
Many who injure, torture, or kill suffer from this experience. However, psychopathy is a strong indicator that someone is engaging in gratuitous violence.
You need to know if you are encountering a psychopath. You can make good guesses just by looking at someone’s face or having a brief conversation. Unfortunately, psychopaths know we know this.
They fight back by working hard on their clothing and grooming to make a good first impression
Beautiful things can be new. Sadism and psychopathy are associated with other traits such as narcissism and Machiavellianism. Such traits are collectively known as the “dark personality factor” or D-factor for short.
These traits have a moderate to large genetic component. So some people are born like that. Alternatively, high D-factor parents can pass on these traits to their children through abuse.
You can learn how to act. We all have a role to play in reducing atrocities. fear and dehumanization Sadism means enjoying the humiliation and hurt of others.
But it is often said that when we dehumanize people, we become cruel. Potential victims are labeled as dogs, lice, or cockroaches, presumably making it easier for others to harm them.
There is something about it. Studies show that when someone breaks social norms, our brains treat that person’s face as inhuman. This makes it easier to punish those who violate the code of conduct.
Sadism and psychopathy are associated with other traits such as narcissism and Machiavellianism.
Such traits are collectively known as the “dark personality factor” or D-factor for short. These traits have a moderate to large genetic component.
So some people are born like that. Alternatively, parents with a high D-factor can pass on these traits to their children through abuse. Similarly,
when we see others behaving in a high D-factor manner, we can learn how to behave. We all have a role to play in reducing atrocities. fear and dehumanization Sadism means enjoying the humiliation and hurt of others.
However, it is often said that we can be cruel by dehumanizing people. Potential victims are labeled as dogs, lice, or cockroaches, presumably making it easier for others to harm them.
There is something about it. Studies show that when someone breaks social norms, our brains treat that person’s face as inhuman
A more generous person can become dominant. As the French writer Voltaire said, the enemy of good is good. Still, bona fide waivers have hidden benefits.
After defeating the good guy, be more open to his messages. One study found that being able to express a dislike of vegetarians made people less supportive of meat consumption.
There is a possibility that it will be Future of Brutality In the movie Whiplash, a music teacher uses cruelty to try to raise one of his students to honor. We may shy away from such tactics.
But the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said that we hate such atrocities too much.
For Nietzsche, cruelty allowed one teacher to bake criticism onto another and do it for the other teacher’s own benefit.
It may become. Nietzsche believed that suffering atrocities helps develop courage, perseverance, and creativity.
Should we be more willing to allow others and ourselves to suffer in order to develop virtue? Probably not. We now know that being treated cruelly by others can have horrible long-term consequences, including damage to our physical and mental health. , the benefits of having self-compassion are also increasingly recognized.
And I question the idea that we have to suffer in order to grow. Positive life events such as falling in love, having children, and achieving lofty goals can lead to growth.
Cruel teaching invites abuse of power and selfish sadism. But Buddhism offers another way. Here we act on love to confront others and protect them from greed, hatred and fear. Life can be cruel The truth can be cruel But we can choose not to
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Liberal societies assume that the suffering of others means that we have hurt them. However, some philosophers reject this idea. In the 21st century, can you imagine being cruel to be kind? sadist and psychopath
A sadist is someone who takes pleasure in hurting and humiliating others. A sadist feels the pain of others more than normal. And they enjoy it. At least they do so until it’s over when they might feel sick.
A common imagination associates sadism with torturers and murderers. But there is also a less extreme but more widespread phenomenon of everyday sadism.
Every day sadists take pleasure in hurting others and observing their suffering. Perhaps you enjoy gory movies, find exciting fights, and find interesting tortures.
They are rare, but not rare enough. About 6% of undergraduates admit that they enjoy hurting others.
But not all psychopaths are dangerous. Antisocial psychopaths may seek thrills from drugs and dangerous activities.
However, prosocial psychopaths find thrills in fearlessly pursuing new ideas. As innovation shapes our society, prosocial psychopaths have the potential to change the world for all of us.
Where do these properties come from? No one really knows why some people are sadistic. Some speculate that sadism was an adaptation that helped slaughter animals when hunting, while others suggest that it helped people gain power. Italian philosopher Niccolò
Machiavelli once said that it is not people who create disorder, but the times. Consistent with this, neuroscience suggests that sadism may be a survival strategy triggered during difficult times.
A lack of certain foods reduces levels of the neurotransmitter serotonin. To do. In this case, you become more willing to hurt others because it makes you feel more comfortable.
Psychopaths can also be adaptations. Some studies have linked higher levels of psychopathy with higher fertility. Still others have found the opposite.
The reason may be that psychopaths thrive in exactly the harshest environments. In fact, psychopaths can thrive in a volatile and competitive world. Psychopaths’ abilities make them master manipulators.
Their impulsiveness and lack of fear help them take risks and seek short-term gains. In the movie Wall Street, psychopath Gordon Gekko makes millions of dollars.
However, while psychopaths can be an asset in the corporate world, men are rarely seen in leadership positions. The relationship between psychopaths and creativity may also explain psychopath survival.
More generally, mathematician Eric Weinstein argues that obnoxious people drive innovation. However, discomfort is less relevant to creativity when the environment supports creative thinking
This makes it easier to punish those who violate the code of conduct. It’s a sweet feeling to think that if you see someone as a human being, you can’t hurt him.It’s also a dangerous deception.
Psychologist Paul Bloom argues that some of our worst atrocities can result from not treating people dehumanizingly.
Because they recognize that they don’t want to feel pain, humiliation, or inferiority complex.
For example, the NSDAP dehumanized Jews by calling them pests and lice. However, the Nazis also humiliated, tortured, and murdered
Jews because they viewed them as corrupt people who would suffer from such treatment.bona fide exception Sometimes people even harm help.
Imagine that you and another player are playing an economic game where you have the opportunity to invest in group funds.
The more money you put in, the more payouts you get. And the fund pays out money to all players regardless of whether they invested or not.
At the end of the game, you can pay to punish the amount invested by other players. This forces you to give up some of your earnings and take money away from the player you choose.
In short, you can be naughty. Some players chose to penalize other players who invested little or nothing in the group fund. increase. Such actions seem pointless. Generous players offer higher payouts.
This phenomenon is called “benevolent exception”. It can be found all over the world. In hunter-gatherer societies, successful hunters are criticized for catching large animals.
Hillary Clinton may have suffered a bona fide exception as a result of her rights-based 2016 US presidential campaign .
The good exceptions in the world are due to our counter-domination tendencies. Players who are less generous in the economic game above may feel that more generous players are seen as preferred employees by others