In human sexuality, top, bottom, and versatile are sex positions or roles during sexual activity, especially between two men.
A top is usually a person who penetrates, a bottom is usually one who receives penetration, and someone who is versatile engages in either or both roles.
These terms may be elements of self-identity that indicate an individual's usual preference and habits, but might also describe broader sexual identities and social roles. The terms top and bottom are often used as verbs for the person's actions. The terms do not necessarily refer literally to physical position during sex.
A top is usually a person who engages in the penetrative role during sexual activity; for men who have sex with men (MSMs), this often involves penetration using the penis during anal or oral sex. Top is also used as a verb meaning "to penetrate another".
Top may also describe a broader personal identity involving dominance in a romantic or sexual relationship; however, this stipulation is not a requisite element of being a top.
Several related terms exist. With regard to gay male sexuality, a total top is one who assumes an exclusively penetrative role for sex. A power top is one noted for their great skill or aggressiveness in topping. A service top is "one who tops under the direction of an eager bottom". A versatile top is one who prefers to top but who bottoms occasionally.
The terms penetrative partner or giver are synonyms of top, created to describe the act of penetrating without implying non-egalitarian relations among participants.
Trevor Hart of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) found that self-identified tops were more likely to act as the penetrative partner in other sexual activities (besides anal intercourse), including oral sex and sex toy play
A bottom is usually the receptive partner during sexual penetration. This frequently refers to MSMs who are penetrated via the anus during anal sex. Bottom is also used as a verb meaning "to be penetrated by another, whether anally or orally".
Bottom may also describe a wider social context of submission within a romantic or sexual relationship, though this element does not apply to all people who prefer to bottom.
In gay male sexuality, a total bottom is someone who assumes an exclusively receptive role during anal or oral intercourse. A power bottom is someone who aggressively enjoys being the receptive partner.
A versatile bottom is one who prefers to bottom but who tops occasionally. The term receiver or receptive partner may be preferred by some.
An oral bottom is the exclusively receptive partner in oral sex, providing the penetrative partner, or oral top, with unreciprocated fellatio and irrumatio.
Versatile refers to a person who enjoys both topping and bottoming, or being dominant and submissive, and may alternate between the two in sexual situations. Flip-flop or flip fuck commonly describes switching from top to bottom during one sexual encounter between two men. Each participant penetrates the other and is penetrated in his turn.
Versatility is a concept of lifestyle. Versatility, though, is not limited to the simple acts of anal, oral, or vaginal penetration, but also includes the splitting of duties and responsibilities in the relationship.
The reciprocal scenario, where both men take turns fucking each other, is often exercised as a celebration of equality. What sets this scenario apart from the others is the versatility of the men involved.
Versatility is a unique and important feature of male anal sex. Some men consider it liberating; ... Versatility to them is akin to speaking two different languages. It requires a special kind of playfulness, creativity, curiosity, and coordination.
According to some, living a versatile lifestyle implies a certain openness to new things and an opposition to labels, stereotypes and generalizations. Therefore, this concept differs from heterosexual relationships where sexual compatibility does not begin with guessing who will end up as top or bottom.
In self descriptions of men seeking sex with other men, they may refer to themselves as a versatile top or versatile bottom in addition to other commonly used terms.
A 2009 Austrian study on gay pornography has shown that at least 82.4% of all men performing in the male porn industry are versatile at some point during their career.
In this study, the performances of 5,556 actors were considered. 10.8% performed only in the top role, 6.8% only as bottoms. The study also found that the actor with the larger penis was more likely to act as the top.
No extensive scientific study has ever been conducted as to firmly determine what percentage of the gay and bisexual male population prefers any given role. A tally of 55,464 profiles on gay.com from the United States showed that 26.46% preferred top, while 31.92% preferred bottom, and the largest group (41.62%) preferred versatile.
The preferences seemed to vary by state, however. In Wyoming, for example, 16% preferred top, 44% preferred bottom, and 40% preferred versatile. In West Virginia, tops outnumbered bottoms by a slim margin (32% top, 29% bottom, and 39% versatile). In Oregon, "versatile" profiles made up nearly half (48.42%)
In the hanky code, a person flagging the top or active role would wear the hanky in the left pocket, the bottom or passive role on the right. Acts which were not divisible into distinct roles however, such as "69" or "anything" followed a pattern where one flagged interest by wearing the hanky on the right,
uninterest by wearing it on the left, and preferences that did not relate to sexual mechanics, such as uniform fetishism or prostitution, followed a pattern where the seeker flagged on the left and the object of desire flagged on the right. The term side has been proposed by Huffington Post contributor Joe Kort for gay men who are not interested in anal sex.
The cowboy position is anal sex in which the bottom straddles the top. The position is often cited as being advantageous for bottoms who are new to anal sex, as it allows the receiving partner to lower himself on to the other's penis at his own pace
The terms top, bottom and versatile do not necessarily refer literally to physical position during sex. For example, if the inserting partner lies on his back and the receptive partner straddles him, the inserting partner is still considered the top, and the receptive partner the bottom, despite their reverse physical arrangement.
However, when used in reference to heterosexual and lesbian sex, the terms top, bottom and versatile usually refer only to position and not to the penetrative role
You may have been asked at one time or another whether you were a top, bottom, or versatile. Some gay men use these labels to identify themselves or to find partners that match their preferences. Others prefer a more loose interpretation of their sexual roles.
It is not unusual for gay men to define themselves this way. Whether you're considering dating or simply hooking up, as a gay man you'll typically ask the other guy whether he’s a top, a bottom, or a versatile.
It’s important to find this out as soon as possible because if you intend to date, or become seriously involved in a relationship, it’s vitally important that you and he be sexually compatible with each other.
The whole issue of top versus versatile hit the gay community big time in 2016 with the release of a survey published in the "Archives of Sexual Behavior," entitled Gay Top and Bottom Roles Generalized by Stereotypes.
The study revealed that judgments made about whether an individual is a top, a bottom, or a versatile are simply based on perceived (not actual) masculine and feminine traits.What do these labels mean?
Let's get clinical for a moment: top and versatile are sex positions taken during sexual activity. While the term can reference females, the labels have commonly come to identify positions preferred by gay men while engaging in sexual activity.
A top is a male who prefers penetrating and a versatile is typically a man who is open to either being a top or a bottom (i.e., the male who "receives").
One gay man had this to say about position labeling:
There’s so much talk and discussion about who gives and who receives. I’ve had straight people tell me that they assumed that most gay guys simply take turns. Yes, some do, but most don’t. But what if a guy isn’t a top, a bottom or even versatile? What about gay men who have never engaged in anal sex and never will, ever? I am tired of all the labeling.
Another gay man (a financial consultant) who relocated to New York City says that the already complex dating world became even more difficult to navigate with all the chatter about positions.
“New York is a bottom town,” says Jason. “When you’re on manhunt.net and the profile says ‘versatile,’ you know that guy is really a bottom. It means he will top but doesn’t like to. I’m a bottom, and my profile says versatile.”
Why Are You Being Asked To Label Yourself In the First Place?
In straight male-female relationships, there are traditional generalizations one makes about sexual compatibility—although I am underscoring the word "generalizations."
However, when two men are involved it is difficult to determine sexual compatibility before the two parties meet. Especially in today's swipe right, swipe left app dating world, one needs to put some thought into it so they can be clear from the start. Positions and Sexual Identity
A person's sexual role/position has more to do with personal preference than with how masculine or feminine they are or how masculine or feminine they appear to be/look. In other words, it has more to do with one's unique personality than the fact that they are straight, gay, dominant, or submissive in nature
There are no absolutes when it comes to an individual's sexual preferences. Some men use these terms as a guide, while others see them as a necessary protocol to follow. Either way, it's an important conversation to have before sex or dating.
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