Just Like That
Criminology and…
March 27, 2023
Sound & Pyramids
March 29, 2023Just Like That
Your Life Changes, Experience, Growth, Mentality
Everyday the same routine, 6,30 am the first alarm five minutes after the second by the third Tome was out of his bed and getting ready for work. Ha work he thought the same thing over and over and these days the office is not busy the outcome of Brexit and the pandemic soon her will be out of work he thought.
Tom was a computer engineer good if not very good at his work he was a natural talent and he loved his job.As good as he was at work the same level he was bad in his social life. No much experience when iot comes tro relationships, in fact he had one partner for two years back at the university and that was it.
Nightlife meant nothing to Tome,. he was never a club goer although he likes music, sometimes you can hear him singing a tune here and there he was very friendly but hard to approach. Once you get to know Tom he will be a friend for life and he will help you no matter what! Everybody liked him and you have no reason to not like him.
He looked at me and quite serious he said ” My life compare to yours is a boring one”, we both laughed and I encourage him to say something anything from the past because I was convinced he may have some stories to tell. And he did start telling me about this girl he met at the university and as he was describing his love he had for her he was making the point that he was never pleased about his performance on his sex life.
He recall the times meeting friends after they all met with their girlfriends and how his friends were exited about the sex life they had but Tome was OK, with it nothing to talk about it was just plain sex. He could not say he was ecstatic about it but he was OK. Many times he said something was missing but he could not work it out what was missing.
I ask him why they finish the relationship and he just said he was not 100% that she was the woman for him although he loved her he just could not or did not want to commit himself. But after he finish the relationship he never met another woman, was he a loner? From the conversation I gather he was like everyone else sometimes he likes to spent time to himself but he was not lonely.
Then he did something which made me laugh and surprise me the same time. He grape my hand and drag me on the dance floor, I can not dance I told him but he did not listen to me maybe the loud music or he ignore to listen and there on the dance floor I saw Tom been re-born.
I was watching him having a good time and as he was moving in a rather sexy way other gay men took notice of him and slowly one after the other start dancing with him and touching him not in any way you sex touch but rather friendly one is like a sign to welcome you on the dance floor and this is how you make friends in a gay club and tonight Tome have several friends around him.
I went to the bar got some more drinks and the night was young as they say. I lost him at some point and when he came back from the toilet I assume he did go to the toilet he ask me if I wanted to take a pill, someone offer him one and before he finish his sentence I told him “why not may as well take one”.
Tom was in Heaven not the club but in real Heaven, he left me and start dancing and talking to a bunch of other men, he was behaving like a gay man and I let him to do as he wanted to it was his night after all.
In the meantime I met some friends and got my attention I was keeping an eye for Tom whom he was crazy dancing . From time to time he was looking around to see if I am still there that make him feel secure I guess and once he saw me he carry on dancing.
My friendship with Tom a straight man it was like a blessing to me, I change my lifestyle to now include my straight friends, was it a good idea I was question myself but I let go for any doubts I have had and enjoy every moment.
I’m happy that I get to live around people who have a different life experience than I do, and I’m happy that they get to be around me. Friendships can be from anyone any backgrounds any culture differences this is how you healthy develop relationships and gain experience.
I celebrated gay pride with my straight friends and we have fun anything they did not know I was able to answer their questions and they met others , it was a day to remember . The same thing happen when we went to Clanstabury a straight week of music and did IO have fun? Fuck yer a lot of fun and I met new people we still; today going out and see each other for lunch or coffee.
One Saturday night6 Tom for some reason did not wanted to go home from work so he ask me if I was willing to have a drink with him after work, of course you can not say no to Tom so I agreed and after work we end up in a bar by the sea side the weather was good end of May everything was fresh and summer was just around the corner,
Tom was in a very good mood we start drinking and talking mainly about work, he knew I was gay and obviously had no issue about it, the common thing we have was work and so we spent the night talking about it and some new stuff and ideas it was a pleasant night and Tom was in a cheerful mood.
The conversation change to relationship and sex and the reason for that was a comment I made for a man just sitting on the table across from us. So I start talking about my sex life what I have done so far with men in my life , some weird situations I have been involved, some funny situations some horny and we just laughed until I ask him about his experience.
Time flies and when you have a good time it goes even quicker, after several drinks I have noticed Tom was getting more chatty and funny I never saw the side of him been funny, then he start asking me personal questions as if he was trying to get something out of me , he was getting somewhere I thought to myself.
Just like that and out of nowhere he said he wants to try to have sex with a man because of the experience and the question game now change and questions like “how is like to have sex with a man feels like?” my reply was “it feels like heaven to me “, and he keep asking me until he came with an idea.
Lets go to a gay club I feel comfortable with you so I want to have the experience of a gay night out./ As clubbing was always what I liked I agreed and I asking him if he was 100% sure, his answer was “yes “, and half an hour after we’re having another drink in the gay club.
It was a busy night and everyone I knew was there, “you are very popular ” Tom said and I smile back “how do you know all these people”? “well” I answer, “do you really want an honest answer? I know them because I fuck with half of them and the rest from the gay nightlife and please do not think I am a whore”
He smile back at me and said “no not at all I think I am jealous” and we both laughed Somehow Tom seem to be different from the Tom I knew at work, he was more relaxed , his knowledge and how he view the world was intelligent talking hum any subject and jumping from one subject to another was a game to him and he had something to say about anything we discuss spending time with Tom was easy as a straight man his head was in the right place.
Just like that Tom transformed to someone I never knew from a working pal to a dancing queen, tomorrow at work I thought he may regret all this but for now I let him be or do as he pleased, and he did.
From tonight till I know Tom till today my relationship or friendship has change, nearly every night we are going out to a gay club where Tom made several friends and funny enough he met a girl a beautiful girl and they are getting on very well. As a joke Tom said to me “I pick up the most beautiful girl because it was no competition”
We will go to straight clubs and we still have fun, the most funny thing was on a gay club he was straight man and on a straight club he was a gay man, the combination of two change Toms attitude towards how he use to view the gay scene and the gay men. For both of us, It’s nice not to have to listen to a chorus of people who feel compelled to act the same way
Sometimes because of your gender people expect you to act a certain way or to speak a certain way and to do things the certain way. Stereotype takes the best out of our humanity and that I came to realize going out with Tom and conversations we have about the subject we both agreed.
Just like that out of the blue my life had change and Tom’s life thank god for that night Tom out of his normal attitude ask me out for a drink, that night change my life and Tom’s life.
Sometimes with Tom we walk down the street and if he sees a guy look at me, he’ll say, ‘Go get him! He is so cool we talk about my partners and his we exchange ideas and we realize we both look at the same thing but we see different stuff. Many times when I was wrong he correct me, I told him how to approach women and how to be patient
It expands me as a human being. There’s a playfulness in talking about sex that I don’t hear from my gay friends. Tom told me he never spoke to anybody before about his personal life and now he can not wait to see me and talk about everything, he knows I will never judge him, i will advice him if he asks me too.
Relationships and friendships are important to our lives we are a pack species just like wolves we like to live in a community we like to have a leader and partners to grow and expand, gay or straight what is the difference as long as we live in harmony nothing is wrong with that.
G.I.T.C
