What Is Anal Cleansing?
Anal cleansing is the proper hygienic care of your backside. With great anal hygiene, you can remain relaxed and comfortable during sex, ensuring your anal experience can remain positive for you and your partner. You can keep your anal area clean by using external and internal methods.
External hygiene really boils down to keeping the area clean regularly and before you’re ready to have anal sex. You can do that with regular washing with soap and warm water or by installing a bidet at home. You can also shave or wax your anal region, but that is a personal aesthetic preference (and comes with potential problems like ingrown hairs or irritation).
Internal cleansing methods are just as important as your external routine. The best internal cleansing method is to maintain a healthy, high-fiber diet. The other method, douching, isn’t strictly necessary for anal hygiene, but many people prefer to have this extra step in the cleaning process. We recommend that you proceed with caution if you do opt to douche so you do not injure yourself.
How To Diet
Having a healthy diet is a great way to ensure that your anus and rectum remain fit for pleasure. Not only does eating right make you feel better, but it will also make your backside feel better as well because you likely won’t have loose or compact poops that can make the area sore.
We recommend eating the following foods:
How To Anal Douche
The main anal douches are a pre-filled store bought enema, a bulb douche, a water bag douche, and a shower douche. Bespoke Surgical recommends you find the one that suits you best, with the understanding of all the principles for their proper use. Our best advice: keep it simple. You only need to clean a few inches, not your entire gut.
The anal canal is about 4-6” deep, so contrary to popular belief, only a minimal amount of preparation is needed. Avoid the temptation to vigorously squeeze in an entire bucket full of water. Think of how a colonic works — what goes in, comes right back out. It’s just a gentle rinse cycle.
Is Anal Douching Safe? Risks Of Over-douching
Over-douching (cleaning too deep, with too much force, or with too much water) can cause problems, such as douche dependency, prolonged anal irritation, elevated mucus production, and lengthening or incomplete contraction of the rectum/colon, which can lead to chronic constipation.
One’s anal sphincters keep everything inside and the constant pushing required for douching can cause injury to these muscles, let alone just the insertion of a device can cause added localized injury. Proper use and lots of lubrication aids proper mechanics. Additionally, your gut contains some good bacteria that assists in digesting food, absorbing nutrients, and keeping bad bacteria in check.
Aggressive and frequent anal douching with products currently out in the market can actually flush away the good shit (pun intended), leaving you susceptible to a whole host of stomach and intestinal issues.
Aside from the health risks, over-douching can also loosen stools that are higher up in the rectum, which wouldn’t normally interfere with anal sex, making it even messier than if you hadn’t douched at all.
Remember: douching with commercially prepared enemas or just plain tap water creates a lot of mucus and dryness in the area, which can cause cell damage, cracking, and bleeding, making it easier to contract and pass along both HIV and other STDs.
The biggest piece of advice Bespoke Surgical can offer is to listen to your body. It knows what it can handle and what it can’t. Along with this, it’s key to make sure that you are eating well and maintaining great external hygiene.
One easy tip is to prove to yourself, even before you douche, how clean you truly are by using a butt plug or dilator, preferably light-colored, to see whether or not any residual stool is even present. If it’s all clean, you can avoid douching altogether.
The important thing to remember is that accidents happen and everybody poops. So, if you find yourself in a situation where things have gotten a little messy, DON’T PANIC! You’re not a freak… you’re perfectly normal.
Anal douching safety tips
Anal douching isn’t something we talk about much in our community and we aren’t given many opportunities to learn about it. My high school coach taught sex ed. He said “Keep it in your pants, boys. Keep it in your pants.” Surprisingly, he never covered anal douching. Yet, we are all supposed to somehow know all about it.
And, we succumb to societal pressure to pass white glove tests at all times of the day. #bottomstruggles. At Magnet, we are asked a lot about how to douche safely. In a perfect world, we wouldn’t douche at all. But to be real, no one wants to leave a crime scene on their partner. There isn’t much research on regular anal douching before sex but we do know some things.
Below, I’ll give you the low-down on what we know about what’s safe to do—and what you should avoid doing if you douche.
Use the right water.
Tap water is fine if you aren’t using it every day. If you douche too often with tap water, you can cause an electrolyte imbalance that using normal saline would prevent. Avoid it if you can but it’s not always easy to do so. And absolutely do not use olive oil, bleach, alcohol, or anything else that you find under your kitchen sink. These will cause significant harm to your butt.
I know you aren’t running a cooking show at home to make your own normal saline. And sometimes your big top daddy is coming over too soon to run to the store to get a Fleet’s. So what about tap water? Using the right type of liquid to clean out your butt is important. Your body maintains a delicate balance of electrolytes to function normally.
If you use the wrong liquid, you can cause imbalances that harm your body. One of the safer liquids to put up your butt is called “normal saline.” This is a water mixture that has the right amount of a sodium electrolyte to match what is in your body. You can get this stuff in a saline Fleet enema or you can also make normal saline at home by combining a half teaspoon of salt with a cup of water.
And while you are pouring the water, be sure to check the temperature. I can’t over-emphasize this one. The mucosal lining of your intestines and colon is much more sensitive to temperature than the skin on the outside of your body. You may be able to tolerate a hot shower, but you’ll burn your insides if you use that same temperature in an enema.
Test the water temperature first with your hand and turn down the temperature until it feels lukewarm. Then turn the temperature down just a bit more. That’s what can go up your butt.
Get the right equipment.
OK, you got the right water and the right temperature. Now how are you getting it up your butt? You’ve got a few different options if you’re looking for the right douching equipment. Here are the options I know about—and my recommendations for each.
Fleet enemas: These are your best bets for safe douching. Fleet enemas come in multiple versions so be sure to get the one that just has normal saline in it. They also have pre-lubricated nozzle tips which is less likely to cause tearing or other damage. The volume is also smaller so you are less likely to overdo it.
Shower shot: Nothing says that you are prepared to bottom more than installing a hose on your shower to rinse out your butt. These require you to be extra careful with your douching. It is very easy to have the water pressure on too high or have the water too hot.
If you choose this option, be very careful. It is also very easy to have the water too hot, which can burn your insides. The nozzle doesn’t even need to go in your butt. You’ll find that just having it at the opening that you’ll get an effective rinse.
Anal douche bulb: If you walk into your favorite porn store, you’ll see a box with some muscled porn star holding a big douche bulb. These have a reusable rubber bulb that you can fill up with your home made normal saline. They are convenient but many of them have a hard plastic nozzle. Use lubricant on the nozzle for safer insertion.
Baby mucous sucker: This may sound strange but some guys use a baby mucous sucker to douche. You can find them in your pharmacy’s baby section. They are similar to the anal douche bulb but they actually are a bit better because the tip of the nozzle is softer and more flexible than that of an anal douche bulb.
You’ll use it the same way you do the anal douche bulb.
Get your butt ready.
Don’t be a rude top and just shove the nozzle of an enema bulb or nozzle of a shower shot up your butt without getting your butt ready first. It’s kind of like bottoming during anal sex—it might hurt if you’re not properly loosened up.
There are two rings of muscles in your butt. The external muscles you can control and relax on your own, but the internal sphincter only loosens up if it senses pressure. So take a finger, lube it up, and loosen up your butt before you try to push anything up there.
Lube it before you stick it.
While you have that lube out for your finger, be sure to lube up the nozzle of whatever you are putting up your butt. The anal douche and shower shot are generally hard nozzles that can easily cause tearing if you are not careful.
Take a moment to put plenty of lube on the nozzle and insert it slowly so you don’t tear. And remember that unlike your ex, the shower shot can do a good job without going in.
Pushing a stiff nozzle into your rectum without lube can cause ripping and tearing. Not only will that be painful, it can increase your risk for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections.
If you irritate the lining of your mucosal membranes in your colon, white blood cells (the kind of immune cells that HIV preferentially infects) congregate in the area to help repair your body. So if you are exposed to HIV there (i.e., your partner is living with HIV and cums in your ass) you’ll be more likely to be infected with HIV.
You are not that kind of catcher. Don’t spray too much in.
You don’t need the water to go very far up inside your intestines. The amount of water than an enema bulb can hold is sufficient.
If you’re using a shower shot, go easy. Start with the lowest water setting at first until you can judge the right level that doesn’t resemble you sitting on an active fire hose
Stick it in and do it.
You’ll want to be close to your toilet or in your shower when you do this. Putting yourself in the right position can make it easier to insert the nozzle. Stand in front of the toilet and put your dominate leg up on the toilet.
After loosening up your butt with a lube finger like a good top, slowly insert the lubed douche nozzle. Squeeze the bulb to slowly squirt in the liquid. Pull out the nozzle. If you can’t hold the liquid, sit down on the toilet immediately but if you can hold it, jump up and down a few times before sitting on the toilet.
If you are in the shower, do the same thing by holding onto something sturdy and put your leg up on the edge of the tub but don’t do the jumping around part as you’ll probably fall.
Don’t douche too much.
You don’t want to overdo it. Even if you douche with the right water, the right temperature, and the right equipment, you can damage the lining in your butt that can put you at higher risk for getting an infection from your partner. There is no magic number of times that makes douching unsafe. But if you can, limit yourself to once a day and only 2-3 days per week.
Give yourself time before sex.
Most of the water will come out of your butt right way but don’t expect that you’ll be able to have sex right after douching. Allow some time for all the water you squirted inside yourself to come back out (and stay close to a toilet while you wait).
You might need an hour or so to make sure it’s all come out before you’re ready for sex. Use this time to clean up your place, take your PrEP or your HIV meds, or get your lube and condoms if they are part of your sexual health plan.
Don’t use laxatives. Other bulking agents are OK.
Unless you need laxatives to treat constipation, don’t use laxatives as a way to prepare for anal sex. Laxatives irritate the lining of your intestines, and they’ll give you abdominal cramping which can end up ruining sex. Also, they might just end up forcing more poop out that wouldn’t have come out otherwise.
Other bulking agents like fiber supplements are OK to take. They might help you normalize your stool if you’re constipated or help you get all of your poop out at once. If you have loose stools or diarrhea, fiber supplements can help.
Be reasonable – remember, poop happens!
I think it’s time that we all realize and acknowledge that if you’re having anal sex, poop is going to make an appearance sometimes. You don’t go to the chocolate factory without getting sample.
I’ve heard countless stories of people who bottom, and have a little bit of poop show up—only to have the top basically say, “sex is over, get out.” The bottoms are made to feel dirty or are shamed. And this just isn’t right. It’s like farting during sex. It happens!
It’s important to remember that what works for one person may not work for another. While I’ve compiled some general information which might help ease the cleaning out process and give peace of mind during play, there is no one-size-fits-all.
Experimentation is highly encouraged. Because everyone’s body reacts differently to what we do or don’t put into it, while trying to figure out a diet for yourself, keeping a record of what is eaten and when can help.
This could be written into a journal, mobile apps meant for dieting, or just kept track of in your head. One of the best things to do for making fisting as a bottom easier is being aware of what you’ve consumed and when. Including the time and amount eaten in the journal can be helpful.
Look for patterns when cleaning out or playing; easy cleanout one day? Look back and figure out what you ate. Because each body is different, there are very few foods that would apply to everyone.
However, consuming things that can pass through the digestive tract unchanged can be problematic, especially so when these can cause harm to the bottom during play. Whole chia seeds or pumpkin seeds, anything hard and sharp, should absolutely be avoided prior to playing. As a general rule, many people benefit from a diet low in processed foods, and closer to nature.
Ditching junk foods and candies and trying a clean diet for a week or two, then slowly adding foods in one at a time can help identify foods that are problematic. Additionally, fatty foods, things like pizza, Chinese, ice cream, TV dinners, burritos, beans, onions, and garlic have been discussed as potential problem foods which may make cleanout more difficult due to increased output.
For events (IML, CLAW) I typically begin a restricted diet a day or two before play, and continue until three hours before my last bottoming scene. For my diet, I eat chicken breast slow cooked with simple spices (sea salt, pepper) and bone broth, mixed with rice.
I also eat steamed vegetables and as much fruit as I want. This works well for me, and I can clean out in 20 minutes or less. Everyone’s body is different though, so some experimentation is recommended.
Creating a Gap
One way to ease the cleanout process and decrease the likelihood of accidents during play is to use fasting techniques. No solid foods for 6-12 hours before play can be sufficient, although some people may go longer.
This can easily be done overnight if you are able to play in the morning. Remember to drink plenty of water to help your body clear itself out.
This can be uncomfortable if you’re used to eating on a schedule, but as long as you’re free of any diet related health conditions (diabetes, hypoglycemia) fasting is perfectly safe, and won’t necessarily result in a wrecked metabolism or cause your body to eat away all its muscle.
From what I’ve read online, fasting can actually be beneficial when followed by healthy foods and portion sizes. Many men swear by fiber supplements.
These come in capsules, powders, and may even be added to food products. They can range in price and effect. Most of these are very similar, however, some should be avoided or used experimentally before committing to playing.
Most of these products can cause dehydration by redirecting water into your poop, so they should all be consumed with plenty of water. It’s recommended you do not take your fiber with medications, as it tends to congeal into a solid mass in the stomach, potentially carrying your pills through your GI tract undissolved. Wait an hour before or after.
Powders: Powders tend to be the most affordable option. They should be mixed with an adequate amount of water and consumed quickly to keep them from congealing in the cup.
Common ingredients are psyllium seed husk (ground is preferred), ground chia seed, acacia, or chicory root. Metamucil is one example of a branded product containing psyllium. Fiber products with probiotics in them should be avoided, these can cause gas and diarrhea.
Capsules: These tend to be a bit more expensive. Some people say they are less effective than powders, though some people have had no issues, and enjoy the convenience of being able to quickly take their fiber without mixing it into fluid. Pure for Men is an example of a branded product marketed to gay men.
Methylcellulose: Many foods and gummies with added fiber contain an ingredient called methylcellulose. This is a man-made fiber created by chemically treating tree cellulose.
Anecdotally, this has been shown to cause people to have gas, bloating, and have a longer cleanout. I would watch for this ingredient and treat it with caution. Powdered and capsule form fiber supplements are generally preferable to foods with fiber added into them, or gummy candy.
Probiotics: The douching process can wash out good bacteria, so it may be smart to take some kind of probiotic. Many kinds of supplements are available, and fermented foods like yogurt, kombucha, and kimchi can get the job done as well.
For those with HIV, a product called Florastor has been recommended as the supplement of choice. Due to the larger size of the microorganism, it’s less likely to permeate the intestinal wall and cause issues elsewhere.
Reasons You Should Try Fisting
Enjoy a satisfying stretch with a deviant difference...
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The sheer intensity of the stretch alone feels incredible and will have you on the climactic brink within seconds. In fact, there may be no need for any movement at all. The euphoric combination of feelings, both physical and psychological, is further enhanced by endorphins that flood into the blood stream. So, do you think you can hand-le it?
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Fisting is an experience which can only be shared with someone that you trust implicitly. Having confidence that they will read reactions, listen to what is said and stop if necessary is vital.
Tops need to be extremely responsive and obedient to the bottom’s requests, but will take great gratification in knowing that they are providing such satisfying stimulation. As such, it is an incredibly intimate sexual activity that triggers supreme psychological responses. Trust us; you won’t be sorry!
It will have a hand in providing your most intense orgasm...
Experiencing/providing the orgasm of a lifetime is literally in your hands! There’s nothing quite like the intensity of reaching climax through fisting. The muscles contract around the hand, fixing it in place.
The pressure felt against the fist as those muscles pulsate delivers unique and unbeatable sensations. Floods of dopamine and endorphins shower the brain, resulting in a euphoric natural high like nothing you’ve ever felt before.
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Want to hand over control? Putting an entire fist inside someone can be an act of dominance. Similarly, receiving a fist can be seen as a submissive act. Watching a partner take control in this way is incredibly thrilling, while seeing how vulnerable and helpless a bottom is, and knowing that they trust you completely, can have the same effect.
Like any other type of BDSM play, it is bound to inspire an amazing sense of self, connection, esteem and pride. As a bottom, having no control over what’s to come will result in intense anticipation and excitement. You’ll certainly get your fill of submissive satisfaction with this type of play!
Safety may not be a dirty word, but it is definitely an important one! Here at UberKinky, we care about you! That’s why we have devised a small list of dos and don’ts to ensure that you are always safe in your out of hours activities. As with any other extreme sexual activity, if you or your playmate experiences any severe discomfort or bleeding then you must stop immediately.
Trim your fingernails, Wear a latex glove to avoid infections, Use PLENTY of lubricant, Douche or use an enema 3-4 hours before your fun, and then a quick, gentle douche right before playtime, Let your fist be pulled in naturally (when past the knuckles), Experiment with different movements, but listen to your partner (or your own body if you are alone)
Use oil based lubricant if you choose to wear a latex glove, Try to fit your whole hand in at once, Skip the warm-up, Force the fist in if you are having trouble getting past the knuckles, Rush, all good things come with time
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