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May 16, 2023How to Cope when Your Friend Stops Talking to You
If You Think You Haven’t Done Anything Wrong
Consider the possibility that you haven’t done anything to provoke this silence. In some cases, people use silence as a means for breaking off a relationship because they lack the ability to explain their actions or preferences. If your friend has reached a decision, for whatever reason, that they don’t want to carry on with the friendship, this might be an explanation as to why your friend has stopped talking to you. It’s a harsh thing to realize but it might be the cause in some cases, a silent way of breaking a friendship.
Consider whether there is a new relationship in your friend’s life. Sometimes a new boyfriend/girlfriend or a change in family members can cause a person to change their friendship priorities. It’s not an excuse to go silent but it may be a reason behind the silence
Apologize to your friend. Be honest about your actions and accept responsibility for hurting your friend and offer to make amends.
Explain that you understand how they are hurt by what you did and that you’re sorry
Allow your friend time to consider your apology. Don’t push things, just let time heal your friend’s feelings.
With luck, your friend will accept your apology and things will smooth over between the two of you. When things are back to normal, take care not to do the same thing again that caused the rift in the first place.
If your friend doesn’t want to talk to you still, see the solution offered at the end of the following part.
Tell your friend that you’re happy to resume being friends whenever it feels like the right time for them. No pressure, no judgment.
More help can be found in How to confront someone who is giving you the silent treatment.
“Hey it’s been a while since last we spoke, today I was thinking about you and I hope you are OK.
“”I miss talking to you and I just hope you are keeping well”
“I hope all is OK with you if you stuck with anything and need help please let me know”
If You Think It’s Your Fault
Consider what you might have done to cause your friend to stop talking to you. If you had an argument, accused your friend of something or failed to support your friend when needed, then you are at least partially involved in whatever influenced your friend to go silent.
Consider whether you might have said something unkind, hurtful or thoughtless that encouraged your friend to feel a need to distance themselves from you.
Listen to your gut. In some cases, it’s not one thing but a series of little things that lead to a “last straw”, when someone has finally had enough of excuses, bad attitude or broken promises. Is that possibly the case?
Have you been a bit of a self-absorbed nuisance lately? In some cases, if you’ve been going through an “it’s-all-about-me” phase, such as planning a wedding or going through something major in your life, your friend may have reached the endpoint of coping with your drama or neediness.
My best friend is ignoring me. He never texts me first and doesn’t seem interested in talking to me. How can I make him appreciate me?
Try going up to him in person and and telling him how you feel. Maybe something’s happened, or maybe he doesn’t even realize he’s doing it. Tell him how you’re feeling and see if you can figure out how to move forward. He may just not be interested in remaining friends anymore, so be prepared for this possibility.
For some reason my friend is completely not talking to me. Another friend told me that their mum doesn’t want them to see me anymore. What should I do?
If you can’t get in touch with your friend directly, you should try contacting their mom, or if you’d be too nervous to do that, ask one of your parents to get in touch with their mom to ask what’s going on.
My “friend” won’t talk to me. It all started when I told her how I felt after she became a model. She got mad at me for bringing her modeling into the conversation. What do I do? End the friendship?
It’s really up to you. It sounds like your friend has changed and you don’t like the person she has become. Maybe you didn’t say it in the nicest way, or maybe she was just being sensitive, but if she didn’t take the criticism well and doesn’t plan on changing her behavior, the friendship probably isn’t going to work out.
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