WORDS CAN MAKE SOMEONE’S LIFE HELL TO DESTROY HIM/HER, WORDS CAN MAKE YOUR LIFE POWERFUL MAKE YOU STRONG AND CONFIDENT
CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WISE BEFORE YOU SPEAK TO SOMEONE, WORDS CAN BE DANGEROUS
We manage to talk and he told me that he was always looking for his father and finally found him but he refuse to see him or to knowledge he is his son.
And that was it that was the end for my friend the rejection was the final hit. He start looking for his father’s love else where the wrong places and the wrong people.
Later they discover his body by the river half naked and beaten. I can only imagine what happened , a friend later told me his eyes were open and his mouth half open and i thought about him many times after.
He knew who the killer was and the last words he may ave said was “love me” that’s what he was after some love. The love he never had the love he was looking for. His father’s rejection was the final hit for my childhood friend now he is gone .
I just wonder if his father thought about what has he done by rejecting his own son. To his defense God only know what his childhood may have been like. a vicious circle of mixed emotions never to be broken.
Years down the road I am still thinking about our childhood the days they marked our future , the dreams we have made and the dreams we never changed to reality.
How we choose different paths how desperate he was for attention seeking love and how he let himself from a powerful teenager to a weak men.
I can only blame the words his father told him
Negative thinking is also self-perpetuating, and the more you engage in negative dialogue—at home or at work—the more difficult it becomes to stop.  But negative words, spoken with anger, do even more damage.
They send alarm messages through the brain, interfering with the decision-making centers in the frontal lobe, and this increases a person’s propensity to act irrationally.
Fear-provoking words—like poverty, illness, and death—also stimulate the brain in negative ways
. And even if these fearful thoughts are not real, other parts of the brain (like the thalamus and amygdala) react to negative fantasies as though they were actual threats occurring in the outside world.
Curiously, we seem to be hardwired to worry, perhaps an artifact of old memories carried from ancestral times when there were countless threats to our survival
It doesn’t matter if your positive thoughts are irrational; they’ll still enhance your sense of happiness, well-being, and satisfaction.
In fact, positive thinking can help anyone build a better and more optimistic attitude toward life.
Positive words and thoughts propel the motivational centers of the brain into action and help us build resilience when we are faced with problems
If you want to develop lifelong satisfaction, you should regularly engage in positive thinking about yourself, share your happiest events with others, and savor every positive experience.
Choose your words wisely and speak them slowly. This will allow you to interrupt the brain’s propensity to be negative,
And, as recent research has shown, the mere repetition of positive words like love, peace, and compassion will turn on specific genes that lower your physical and emotional stress.
You’ll feel better, live longer, and build deeper and more trusting relationships with others, at home and at work.
I will tell you a story at the end you make up your mind to believe me or not. This is an example on to how powerful words can be. ” as a young boi I had a friend, we went to school together later to the music shool then we learn to spewak a second language together we were very close.W
We dreamed together with in our dreams we travel places we became famous or what ever we wanted to be, but real lifeput an end to our teenage dreams and we seperated .
I haven’t seeing him for years I moved town as well and by asking friends I got to know some things about his life. Some I believed some stories not so .
I knew my friend and i knew him well or so i thought.
years after I saw him, he looked different the spark in his eyes have gone and in front of me was standing someone I have never met. how is it possible for someone to change so much?
He is not my friend but someone who accuses me of leaving him behind and I should have taken him with me and yes some of that may be true according to the dreams we re making but it was not up to me.
Someone once said that words are more dangerous than guns. I think this is absolutely true.
But the reason words can be harmful is not their meaning, but their lack of meaning. Words are a communication tool,
A symbolic system to represent complex ideas in a concise and clear way, words that for whatever reason do not have a minimally clear and well defined meaning become harmful as everyone
(the speaker and the listener or anyone else for that matter) can attach whatever semantics they find convenient at any given time.
In many cases this words did originally have a clear and useful meaning, but over the years so many people have attached so many different and completely incompatible meanings
As to make the addition of any of them to a sentence often make the sentence impossible to decipher with certainty (and often allowing the reader to interpret it in any way they find convenient, destroying any chance for communication.)
To interrupt this natural propensity to worry, several steps can be taken. First, ask yourself: “Is the situation really a threat to my personal survival?”
Usually, it isn’t, and the faster you can interrupt the amygdala’s reaction to an imagined threat, the quicker you can take action to solve the problem.
You’ll also reduce the possibility of burning a permanent negative memory into your brain
When doctors and therapists teach patients to turn negative thoughts and worries into positive affirmations, the communication process improves and the patient regains self-control and confidence.
But there’s a problem: The brain barely responds to our positive words and thoughts.
They’re not a threat to our survival, so the brain doesn’t need to respond as rapidly as it does to negative thoughts and words
To overcome this neural bias for negativity, we must repetitiously and consciously generate as many positive thoughts as we can
If you want your business or personal relationships to flourish, you’ll need to generate at least five positive messages for each negative utterance you make.
(“I’m disappointed” or “That’s not what I had hoped for” count as expressions of negativity, as does a facial frown or nod of the head.)
Before you open your mouth and talk to someone think, what are you about to say, be kind do not judge . Nobody wants to hear the bad words nobody wants to feel bad even if they know they are been bad.
Praise a man to take the best out of him. We are born equal innocent naive, what we become is a pattern of behaviors we experience and each of us treat the experience different. That does not mean you are right and I am wrong we just had different teachers